Transient Dreams

Let the light pierce through the darkness Close all old accounts, turn a new leaf Re-learn that old lesson of friendship Kill nor be killed, settle for lessening Amidst us of this fossilized hatred

Transient Dreams

glimpses of life… silence and chaos; laughter and tears…

Perhaps that time has not come yet when our, Gods would listen to the beats in our hearts, peace and happiness spread their glow, perhaps we would have to force Mother Time?.

Learning Styles and Other Troubles

I finally had a meeting with my academic adviser. I don’t really have any problems in school so it was pretty quick. We just answered questionnaires - ack! I just remembered! I haven’t emailed him my VARK questionnaire results yet.

Okay, I just took the test (again - I forgot to copy the results from the first time I took it):

The VARK Questionnaire Results

Your scores were:

Visual: 8

Aural: 7

Read/Write: 14

Kinesthetic: 13

You have a multimodal (RK) learning preference.

Use the following helpsheets for study strategies that apply to your learning preferences:
multimodal
read-write
kinesthetic

From VARK - A Guide to Learning Styles

I don’t really agree with some of the results…but then, I haven’t really thought about my learning style. I’ve always considered myself as purely a read/write person rather than kinesthetic so I was a bit surprised with the results.

There are only 16 questions - pretty short for a questionnaire that measures something as complex as learning. I guess I’m just used to Psychological tests that have at least 20 or more. Ever wonder why some of the questions in Psych tests seem so similar? That’s because they are! It’s all about consistency. The VARK Questionnaire is trying to avoid questionnaire fatigue but I think it’s better to have more questions. You can rule out whether a person is just answering randomly or really taking the test seriously. I think having fewer questions does not prevent people from giving spurious answers especially if it’s just a requirement for school or work.

How about you guys? What’s your learning style/preference?

Family
My dad’s home. I don’t know if he’s just pretending or not…but he does seem weak. And he’s a lot thinner. His belly’s still big but he did lose weight. I heard him talking on the phone a while ago… He was asking about something he ordered a few months ago. I can’t believe he’s at it again! He’s spending money he doesn’t even have yet! We’re spending thousands everyday for his medicine. But we’re not about to let my mom spend all her money on someone who doesn’t seem to even care what happens to the rest of us. Sometimes I feel like my dad wants us to go bankrupt. He said it himself, he’s going to spend all his money while he’s alive. But then, my mom has been the one taking care of almost everything around here since I was in high school. It just makes me so angry! My dad earns a LOT and we don’t even see half of it! I wouldn’t mind except he blames US for squandering his money. WTF?! We rarely even ask him for anything because he never forgets to remind us about every little thing he ever did for us. For once, I just want to feel that he genuinely loves us..even in some small way. They always say I’m his favorite child but they also tell me that I was his lucky charm. He got all his big breaks when I was born. I can’t help but think that I’m his favorite just because he thinks I bring him luck.

I saw my mom sorting my dad’s pile of prescriptions the other day and I just wanted to hug my mom… I know she was thinking about the hundred other things we have to put in order. *sigh… My dad’s never going to change.

And please, don’t tell me that:
a) you’re lucky you still have a dad
b) he’s still you’re dad, you should understand him
c) he can’t be that bad
d) he loves you, you’re his daughter!
I’ve heard it all before. The fact is, you have to live with my dad to know how he really is.

And please don’t think I don’t love him. Because no matter how bad he is, I acknowledge the fact that he is my father even though I sometimes wish it wasn’t so. There were times when he was good to me. He buys me stuff and that’s great…but other than that, I’ve never felt that he really cares.

Sorry! I’m just so angry. I don’t mean to offend any of you. I just needed to vent.

Anyway, I’m off to work on my midterm projects! Gaaaaaaaaah!!! MIDTERMS NEXT WEEK! @_@

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15 Feb 08 | Tags: family, Psychology
| Life, Relationships, School

15 Responses to “Learning Styles and Other Troubles”

Nanda | February 15th, 2008 at 4:58:15 pm

I have never heard about that VARK thing but it sounds interesting (I just took a look at that website you linked to)! My results:

Your scores were:

* Visual: 2
* Aural: 6
* Read/Write: 1
* Kinesthetic: 7

You have a multimodal (AK) learning preference.

Use the following helpsheets for study strategies that apply to your learning preferences:

multimodal
aural
kinesthetic

How interesting! :D

Don’t worry, I won’t tell you that “he IS your dad” blablabla. My dad isn’t exactly the same as yours but we (my mum, family, me) think that he might have a form of autism so living with him is really difficult. First of all I am shocked to hear that your dad has FAVOURITE children?? All his children should be equal in his eyes! I am, of course, not sure how many siblings you have but parents should not have a favourite child. Apart from that, it sucks to hear that he’s so selfcentered (just like my dad, really) and that he wants to spend all his money. It doesn’t seem like a very responsible choice of your father. Good luck with everything, at times it must be very difficult for you and your mum!

Take care!
Sarah | February 15th, 2008 at 10:33:01 pm

Your scores were:
Visual: 3
Aural: 3
Read/Write: 15
Kinesthetic: 3

You have a very strong Read/Write learning preference.

Hmm, yes that’s right for me. When I’m learning I always have to scribble things down to make sense of things, I make tons of lists & revise by reading & writing over & over again!

I’m really sorry to hear about how your dad acts I guess I have a difficult time understanding when people have problems with their parents… Mike gets really frustrated with me when I don’t understand the problem he has with his dad (I guess it is a similar situation). It must be really tough on your family, especially your mum. I know Mike’s mum finds it difficult to cope I don’t know what to say really… give your mum a hug though? I’m sure she’d appreciate that & I hope things get easier for you all *huggles*
Mishie | February 16th, 2008 at 3:39:58 am

Visual: 3
Aural: 4
Read/Write: 6
Kinesthetic: 4

That things funny. There were like…only two answers that actually applied to me It doesn’t take things into account like learning on your own.

And I’m sorry about your dad. Mine’s pretty much a bastard, so I can kind of relate.
Toya | February 16th, 2008 at 9:11:40 am

I don’t think I have taken that test before. I might check it out.
FruityOaty | February 16th, 2008 at 11:46:48 am

I understand your feelings about your Dad… love and frustration mingled together.

My Dad undergoed a criticial kidney transplant a couple of years ago. My sister actually donated one of her kidneys to him. It was either her or me, but based on certain factors, she stepped up and became the donor.

Anway, I remember my Dad saying, if he lived… he’d change his habits, particularly regarding his health — eating, exercising… But 2 years later, he’s still the same — eating crap and abusing his body. It’s just so annoying sometimes (although I don’t voice it) because I think… OMG, your daughter gave her kidney to you so you can live. Treat it well at least!
Simply Precious | February 17th, 2008 at 8:28:51 am

Your scores were:

* Visual: 3
* Aural: 2
* Read/Write: 9
* Kinesthetic: 2

You have a very strong Read/Write learning preference.

Hehe, nice test!

*hugs* I’m sorry to hear about your dad. I know EXACTLY what you mean about people saying stuff like “you’re lucky to still have a dad”, etc, because that’s EXACTLY how I feel about mine’s, like you HAVE to live with my dad to understand what’s going on… *sigh*… *hugs*
Amy | February 18th, 2008 at 2:34:37 am

It’s alright to vent. Sometimes dealing with family can be hard, because they are your family, and you love them, but they drive you crazy.
Sarah | February 19th, 2008 at 12:15:38 am

I’ve never taken the VARK test before, but I have taken some questionnaires/quizzes about how I learn. They are interesting, but at the end of the day, you only know how you learn best.

Sorry to hear that that is happening to your dad. Mine is the complete opposite. He does not like to spend money and if he does, he spends a very small amount.
Trixie | February 19th, 2008 at 5:12:08 am

I don’t think 20 questions is enough to evaluate anyone
About your dad, I feel bad for you and your family that you are having to go through something like that and I think your dad is WRONG for wanting to spend all his money before he is gone. He should be thinking about his family and them having enough to live on. Sorry, don’t mean to sound so mean but that’s just the way I feel about it.
Vera | February 19th, 2008 at 7:46:28 pm

Your scores were:

* Visual: 8
* Aural: 6
* Read/Write: 13
* Kinesthetic: 8

You have a mild Read/Write learning preference.

Probably true. I read and write to learn. It gets tiring lol. I’m sorry to hear about your dad, my father’s not much better either. He spends money on extravagance and things that make himself look like he belongs in the upper class society. That’s how proud he is.
Wyther Wyskers | February 21st, 2008 at 1:41:05 am

Apparently, I’m all over the place. lol Here are my results.

* Visual: 3
* Aural: 3
* Read/Write: 4
* Kinesthetic: 6
Anna | February 21st, 2008 at 11:01:23 am

That VARK test sounds interesting - I think I am going to take it now.
Charlene | February 27th, 2008 at 2:29:48 am

“…please don’t think I don’t love him.”

It’s pretty obvious that you love him. If you didn’t, you wouldn’t be concerned. I can’t relate to what you’re going through with your dad, but I can totally understand why you’re angry. It must be so frustrating to have to deal with that, especially since it’s your own father.

*lots of big hugs*
Gill | February 27th, 2008 at 2:54:15 pm

I took the VARK questionnaire, and I have a multimodal way of learning. Which is quite true. I’ve always been uncomfortable in aural situations.

Anyone who criticizes you for stating your opinion about your own father on your blog has issues. It’s YOUR blog, say whatever you want.

I can identify with the father issues myself, though not in the exact same way as you. Good luck. :D
sara | February 28th, 2008 at 3:39:29 am

I never took any tests like that in school so I don’t really understand any of that lol.You have every right to be angry!No need to apologize when this is your blog.I have no advice for you really.Both my parents are disabled and thankfully my mom has insurance but my dad doesnt luckily his meds arent that expensive.I hope it gets better for you though.Some people think they have to buy affection or to show affection.Maybe that’s why he is the way he is with you?!?!?

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